The Difficulty of Change

Behavior is tied up to our psychological infrastructure which is tightly governed by our belief as human beings.   We as human beings live and die for our beliefs but we mostly do not recognize that many of us have self destroying beliefs that create a shaky psychological infrastructure which can show up in our behavior.  Thus a real change in behavior cools down to real change in belief which is deemed difficult.

We as emotional people face difficulty in changing our beliefs (this is not what I am asking for) and thus our thoughts and our behavior can sometimes clash.  For this main reason, we complain about certain aspects but when it comes to taking a decision about this same aspect, at many instances we  choose the orthogonal choice.  For example, most of the people in this country complain about politics, about politicians and their practices.  Yet, when people have the chance to seriously transmit their complaint or have the chance to affect a change, they refrain and their behavior is pulled back by their beliefs.

So what can we do?

Accept responsibility, accept differences and try to find solutions based on those differences.  Do not expect change in behavior because of the difficulty or even the impossibility of the change in belief. Rather ask for a change in the governing system that has to be compatible with the people's beliefs and then eventually things will sort out. 

As a result, there will be no change if we do not face our differences and create a system compatible with such differences.

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