Why is it so difficult for us to say "No" when we don't want to do something? Many say that we can't say "No" out of politness but guess what? Most of the time the effect of not saying "No" overcomes the positive consequences of politness. Others say we don't want to lose opportunities but guess what? You will lose many others if you don't stand for your commitment on this one. Others add; we want to help people but guess what? In many circumstances, your agreement, if not implemented according to your promise, might be an obsticle.
However, I do believe that the problem is far more than politeness, lost opportunities and the need to help are concerned, it is a problem of wrong predictions.
We are not programmed to plan for the future and we tend to make future predictions based on the present status or on similar previous experiences. A past experience or a present event completely dictates our future assumptions in a country where tomorrow is uncertain in many aspects. We lived decades of uncertainty and chaos at many levels so the concept of planning is almost inexistant. The years of uncertainty that we lived give us an ideal image of the future so we tend to squeeze in all the pleasant events or ideals not taking into consideration other crucial real life factors.
The future is nothing but a continuous path on the time coordinate that might be affected by one's past or present decisions but can not be completely determined by the past or the present. Think for a second and consider many variables before agreeing on future plans. Eventually saying "No" when you can't do something will become easier and easier.
However, I do believe that the problem is far more than politeness, lost opportunities and the need to help are concerned, it is a problem of wrong predictions.
We are not programmed to plan for the future and we tend to make future predictions based on the present status or on similar previous experiences. A past experience or a present event completely dictates our future assumptions in a country where tomorrow is uncertain in many aspects. We lived decades of uncertainty and chaos at many levels so the concept of planning is almost inexistant. The years of uncertainty that we lived give us an ideal image of the future so we tend to squeeze in all the pleasant events or ideals not taking into consideration other crucial real life factors.
The future is nothing but a continuous path on the time coordinate that might be affected by one's past or present decisions but can not be completely determined by the past or the present. Think for a second and consider many variables before agreeing on future plans. Eventually saying "No" when you can't do something will become easier and easier.
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